Average suggested dating time before marriage
Ted Huston, a leading researcher on transitions in relationships, marriage and parenthood, followed couples for 13 years starting in 1979.
He states in his study that happily married couples dated for approximately 25 months before getting married. Couples who were unhappily married soon after they said “I do” and quickly divorced more often married at or after three years.
Couples who fell fast in love were engaged after nine months, and married after 18 months.
These couples usually made it to their seventh anniversary before divorcing sometime later.
I get asked a lot of relationship-themed questions given where I work, and one of them is from women with boyfriends who want to know how long to wait for the ring.
These aren’t women who have been dating for two months, but rather women who are in long-term relationships.
Much has changed in the last thirty years, and those in my study are still reporting general satisfaction in their marriages.
Is there a difference between couples that met recently and those in Huston’s study?
They have seemingly great mates who have jobs and call their moms and open doors to restaurants- but haven’t yet popped the question.The relationship is traveling into their third (or sixth) year and nothing is wrong except these girls would like to take the relationship to the next level and their men have yet to agree.Are these guys patient or just stringing them along? As it turns out, there isn’t a lot of recent research on the courtship length prior to marriage.Decades ago the statistics ranged from six to fourteen months.
On average, the couples in my study decided to marry 2.8 years after they first showed romantic interest (many couples knew each other before they dated, but that isn’t counted).This may reflect growing trends in the delay of marriage.